"My startup has crashed, so have I -- now what? I feel horrible."
That happens every day to large numbers of startup people. Maybe it happened to you. Or is going to -- remember that your chances of success are tiny.
I've experienced startup failure -- as founder and as coach of founders. It's as painful as going through a divorce or losing a loved one, according to the medical professionals. Very, very powerful.
It starts an avalanche of downward spiraling emotions and can end in physical death of not arrested.
There are professional medical people who spend their lifetimes intervening, often with very positive results. Yes, there is hope after startup failure.
ARTICLE TO READ
In today's Wall Street Journal, author Jim Rendon writes about his research into the lives of people who had suffered trauma, often life threatening. What he found is very different from what most of us expect.
Bottom line: Trauma people often ended up with surprisingly wonderful lives.
"I love what I do, who I am," she says, "I can't imagine a better life." Dr. Hayward at 16 was paralyzed from the chest down in a car accident.
Some of the clinical findings for you to think about:
- "... accident survivors took pleasure in daily activities slightly more than did member of the [50 winners of $6 million lotteries, and 50 people without traumatic experiences]."
- "... trauma can spark positive change."
- "Part of [the trauma] can catalyze life-altering growth."
- "When you are near death, everything seems to crystalize."
- "And when people in that situation have to grab onto positive glimmers of hope; they have to stretch themselves to find a whole new way of living, and that makes their lives more meaningful."
- "... studies have shown that between half and two-thirds of trauma survivors report positive change." "That's been documented around the world."
- " No matter how severe the trauma, they all said they had grown stronger and more fulfulled as a result."
- "Some even [said] they were thankful for events that nearly took their lives."
I think you've enough to reflect on. Especially for when you feel the pain of your failed startup.
For one final "That's amazing!" encouragement, go to this video about Nick Vujicic born without limbs. You'll never feel sorry for yourself again.
BOTTOM LINE: There is hope beyond startup failure. MDs have researched and documented it. Living trauma people agree. Study what they found works for them, especially the spiritual part of their souls. It will give you strength to go through the dark days of doing a startup. It's how those serial entrepreneurs do it. It's now part of their unfair advantage. You can do it also.
I wish you The Best on your Adventure!